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The First 4 Steps to Recover from Depression

Multiple traumas and neglect in childhood left me with serious psychological problems. In my late teens I started to self-destruct with drugs and alcohol, and at age 27 had a major crisis followed by 45 years of depression. I never gave up trying to learn how to live a happy life, and I did finally recover. But getting out of depression alone takes too long. Your recovery will be so much quicker if you find a guide who will give you actions steps tailored to your specific situation, believe in you and support you every step of the way.

Everybody’s depression is different, but anybody, even if you can’t get out of bed some mornings, can use these 4 action steps to get your recovery off to a good start.

1. The Universe is Indifferent — The first thing you must understand is that the universe is indifferent to you. It has no plan for you. It won’t make your life easier, and it won’t make it harder. We make our own life easier and harder by our decisions and actions. You can either do nothing for the rest of your life, or you can decide on a goal that’s meaningful to you, and work toward it. Life is hard whatever you do, but the benefits of doing the right thing can be astounding.
2. Meditation — Meditation is about learning to control your thoughts. Everything has both positive and negative aspects. To get out of depression we need to focus on the positive aspects of things. We still know the negatives are there, we just don’t pay them as much attention. As well, you can learn to focus on just what’s happening right in front of you, instead of being sad about the past or worrying about the future. Whenever I brought myself back to what’s happening right in front of me, there was never anything to be depressed about.
3. Parental Love — A person who is loved by their mother grows up feeling safe in the world, like there is a place for you here. A person who is loved by their father feels capable, like you’ll always be able to take care of yourself. Part of most people’s depression is that one or both of their parents was absent, either literally or emotionally. I can teach you how to bring that parental love into your life now, even if both of your parents are gone.
4. Self-Esteem — When you feel good about yourself you feel better about everything. A large part of feeling good about yourself is being strong and fearless. Except for the last few years I lived with fear every day of my life so I know what I’m talking about. I found my courage and I can help you find yours. You’ll be able to stand up for yourself anytime anywhere without conflict. Then you can relax, because you know you can handle anything life brings. Some of the best experiences in life can only come when you’re relaxed.

Depression can be a complex issue, requiring more than 4 steps to recover. But these four steps will start you off right. To talk about how to fit them into your life, apply for a Free”End Depression Now” Coaching Session up to 90 Minutes.

Do You Have High-Functioning Depression?

If you’re managing to keep your life together but are so tired of the struggle, you may have high-functioning depression. Some people with PTSD or ADHD work very hard and don’t understand why they’re not happy or more successful. For many years I worked very hard to keep my web design business running even though I didn’t enjoy it, just so I didn’t have to deal with people face to face.

Most of the time I wished I was someone else, anyone else.

From that place I completely turned my life around. And with the right help you can too. Never give up on living a joyful life. Know that you can be confident and strong, feeling good about yourself and the world, making your life any way you want it.

An Experienced Guide

Because I didn’t have good role models as a child I had absolutely no idea how to live a good life. So I just tried everything I could think of. For the first 20 years I did make progress but it was very slow. Then in 1998 I joined a meditation group based on Ancient Wisdom and my learning took off.

Over the next 25 years I became more aware of myself and why I did things, why other people did things, and why the world is the way it is. Most importantly, I learned to control my thoughts, which is one of the keys to getting out of depression.

Nobody’s life is perfect, but I’ve learned to be happy and strong again very quickly.

I built a successful business, formed new relationships, and to my surprise friends and family started coming to me for advice. I discovered joys of being alive that I never knew existed. I can honestly say that one day in my life now is worth all the years of my suffering.

To get out of depression you need to know what to do and be willing to take action. I can help you with what to do, and will support you every step of the way. Apply here for a Free “End Depression Now” Coaching Session up to 90 Minutes.

I look forward to hearing your story,
Ken Lapp
Things are going to get easier