Multiple traumas and neglect in childhood left me with complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), and no feeling of self or self-worth. In my late teens I started to self-destruct, and at age 27 I had a psychological crisis followed by 35 years of serious depression. I had to try hard every single day of those 35 years to learn how to live a happy life, but I never gave up, and I did finally recover from my depression.
The First 4 Steps to Recover from Depression
- Responsibility — Whether the problems in our life are our fault or not, we need to take responsibility for dealing with them. Taking responsibility for everything in your life is easier than it sounds, and it’s tremendously liberating. You realize you have the freedom to make your life any way you want it.
- Meditation — Meditation is about learning to control your thoughts. We need to control our thoughts to look at the positive side of things. To get out of depression we need to look at the positive side of things. We still know the negatives are there, we just don’t pay them as much attention.
- Parental Love — A person who is loved by their mother grows up to feel safe in the world, like there is a place for you here. A person who was loved by their father feels capable, like you’ll always be able to take care of yourself. Part of most people’s depression is that one or both of their parents was emotionally absent. When you learn to bring parental love into your heart your life will open up.
- Self-Esteem — When you feel good about yourself you feel better about everything. A large part of self-esteem is being able to live your life the way you want to. I teach clients how to take back their Personal Power so they can stand up for themselves anytime anywhere without conflict. When you have your Personal Power you can relax, because you know you can handle anything life brings your way. And only when you’re relaxed can you experience some of the greatest joys this life has to offer.
Depression can be a complex issue, requiring many more than 4 steps to recover. But these four steps will start you off right. To talk about how to fit them into your life, apply for a Free 90 Minute “Get Out of Depression Now” Coaching Session.
An Experienced Guide
Because I didn’t have good role models of what it’s like to live a good life, I had absolutely no idea how to do it. So I just tried everything I could think of. I read every self-help book I could find, started running five miles a day, and I changed my diet. I quit smoking marijuana and tobacco, quit drinking, and I talked to so many therapists and mental health professionals.
I didn’t even realize I had PTSD, ADD, and OCD, so for the first 20 years I made very slow progress. Then in 1998 I joined a meditation group based on Ancient Wisdom and my learning to live a happy life increased significantly. Gradually over the next 25 years I became more aware of myself and why I did things, why other people did things, and why the world is the way it is. Most importantly, I learned to control my thoughts, which is the key to getting out of depression.
I still have unhappy times, but I’ve learned to be strong and happy again very quickly.
I built a successful business, formed new relationships, and to my surprise friends and family started coming to me for advice. I discovered joys of being alive that I never knew existed. I can honestly say that one day in my life now is worth all the years of my suffering.
But learning by personal experience takes too long. I don’t recommend it. Why suffer for years when you don’t have to? Your recovery will be so much quicker if you find a guide who’s already learned what works in the real world.
Talk to someone who’s been where you are now and recovered.
And look for a guide who gives you specific actions steps, not vague generalities. Also, find someone you’re comfortable with, someone you trust.
Recover from Trauma Without Being Re-traumatized
Because I got out of my depression without having to relive the painful memories, I knew it was possible. But it took me many years of meditation. I wanted to find a quicker way to help other people recovering from PTSD.
I found a proven method, accepted by mainstream psychologists around the world, of recovering from trauma without being re-traumatized by the memories. It is possible to reprocess those memories into a safer, more appropriate context, so they don’t upset you anymore.
Do You Have High-Functioning Depression?
If you’re managing to keep your life together but are so tired of the struggle, you may have high-functioning depression. Some people with PTSD or ADD/ADHD don’t understand why they’re not more successful, so they feel bad about themselves. For many years I worked very hard to keep my home business running even though I didn’t enjoy it, just so I could work at home and not have to interact with other people.
Most of the time I wished I was someone else, anyone else.
From that place I completely turned my life around. And with the right help you can too. Never give up on learning to live a joyful life. Know that you can be confident and strong, feeling good about yourself and the world, and making your life however you want it to be.
Free 90 Minute “Get Out of Depression Now” Coaching Session
To get out of your depression you just need to know what to do and be willing to take action. The first action is to talk to an experienced guide. Apply for a Free 90 minute “Get Out of Depression Now” Coaching Session.
- We’ll work together to create a crystal clear vision of the kind of life you’d like to have.
- We’ll look specifically at what’s holding you back, and how you can get past those challenges.
- You’ll leave the session renewed, re-energized, and inspired to live the life of your dreams.
I look forward to hearing your story,
Things are going to get easier